I’m sure you’ve already seen some posts about this kid who said on national TV that her father has "textmates."
Napailing rin ako while watching that.
“Paano nalaman ng bata yun?”
That’s my initial thought.
“Nakwento ba ng mama niya?
Or nabasa ba ng bata?”
The thing is, akala ng iba walang idea ang mga bata about life, when the truth is, they are very observant.
Alam ng bata kapag mahal ng parents nila ang isa’t-isa. Natutuwa sila kapag nag-kikiss or hug ang parents nila, at umiiyak sila when their parents argue and fight. No wonder, so many kids from divorced parents, ended up depressed because they blame themselves.
Going back, it could’ve been her mother who shared to her about the textmates. Pwede ring nag away in front of her because of the same issue. Since I’m not sure about that, I wonder how was the couple in front of their kids.
I was reminded by one of my ninongs’ word, he said, “When one protects their marriage, they also protect their kids.”
So, kamusta kayong mag asawa?
How are you in front of your kids?
Are you loving toward each other?
Do you speak with love around your kids?
Are you gentle with one another?
Are you faithful?
Do you pray for your marriage?
Do you protect your marriage?
Do you entertain people outside of your marriage?
What needs to be changed to protect your family?
Do you build and encourage one another?
When was the last time you dated and made each other feel loved?
These are some of the questions you have to consider as a married couple when you want to protect your kids.
And sadly, knowing her father’s unfaithful acts had scarred that child, as we all saw it, she cried, thinking her father might not be around soon. She doesn’t even want to say, "I love you."
That little one might grow up questioning why her father is like that and “are all men like that?” Trust issues would start to grow. She will also grow up thinking she needs to be better than everyone else so she does not end up experiencing the same thing. So insecurities start to sink in as well.
Having a present father doesn’t always mean that your father has been fully present. It’s sad that this is not just a reality for this family but for a lot of families.
“Hindi talaga ganyan si Tatay, hindi pala-attend ng events sa school, hindi pwede sumama sa ganito”
I have heard of this so many times from classmates and friends back in the day, and I’ve also experienced some moments like this but you what, how I wished our fathers were not like that. How I wish our fathers were the ones insisting on coming to watch us perform, receive an award, or celebrate a milestone.
This is truly a wake-up call for all who need to read it.
To all husbands, please be faithful.
To all wives, please communicate what you truly feel.
To all couples: talk and resolve conflicts; learn to be patient with one another; and always build each other up.
To the next generation of parents, I know we can do better. Let’s raise the next generation of men with leadership, love, and faithfulness. They are the future fathers. Let’s also raise the next generation of women who will nurture affection and trust. They are the future mothers.
I believe we can do so much better in our relationships. Let’s not allow kids to suffer this way.
By God’s grace, my relationship with my papa is now so much better. Overall, I hope you allow God to work in your relationships as well. 🤍
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