Hindi masama

 HINDI MASAMANG TUMULONG. PERO KUNG SOBRA SOBRA NA, NAKAKATULONG PA BA?

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I heard a story from a seminar I went to last week.

And it hit me so hard and changed my perspective about helping people.

And here goes the story.

It is called, "The Butterfly Story"

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Once upon a time, a man found a butterfly that was starting to hatch from its cocoon.

He sat down and watched the butterfly for hours.

It's struggling to force itself through a tiny hole.

Then, it suddenly stopped making progress and looked like it was stuck. 

So the man decided to help the butterfly. He took a pair of scissors and cut off the remaining bit of the cocoon.

The butterfly then emerged easily.

But it had a swollen body and small shriveled wings.

The man continued to watch the butterfly because he expected that the wings would enlarge and expand to be able to support the body so it can fly.

Neither happened!

In fact, the butterfly spent the rest of its life crawling around with a swollen body and shriveled wings.

It never was able to fly.

Lesson of the story?

📌 Sometimes, in our desire to help people, especially our loved ones, we don't want to see them struggle so we take the struggle out from their lives instead. 

Without realizing that they need to struggle so they can fly.

Wala namang masamang tumulong.

Wala rin namang masamang pagaanin yung burden nila.

But too much helping people won't do good at all.

To you and to them.

Let them struggle.

Let them face their demons and overcome their challenges.

It doesn't mean you're abandoning them.

Or you being selfish.

It's you, actually helping them.

Helping them and supporting them from a far.

So they can have space for growth.

So they can fly.

Remember this story everytime you want to help people and ask yourself.

"Am I really helping them?"

"Will they be able to fly if I help them?"